It’s a New Year and a New Decade, your social media is most likely flooded with New Years Resolutions Posts. While we want you to have your healthiest year ever in 2020, we want you to find intentions and goals that have meaning for you. With over a third of resolutions failing before the end of January we have asked Jacque Bruggemann from Inspired Mummies to share her morning rituals with you. To inspire you to bring focus to each morning and begin or continue your wellness journey.
Happy New Year Mummies, I’m Jacque from Inspired Mummies- Wellness Ambassador, Podcaster, Wife and Mum to 3 Wildlings. The following words come from my heart to yours and I hope that you can give yourself space to embrace YOU in 2020. I want you to give the New Years Resolutions the FLICK. There is no new you, there is just the YOU that you were always intended to be. Maybe like me you have ‘lost’ that person a little, Mum life, career life, business life, wife life it can all pile on and lead us to lose our essence, waver off the path that our soul was intended to take.
‘In the trenches’
I am going to chat to you about my morning routine and how following this sees my days, most of the time, flow with more ease. Remembering that I, and most of you, are in the trenches of Motherhood. The days are long and the nights can be even longer.
Are you a morning person? Some days I am, some I am not…. Like really really not! It actually depends on two big factors. One being how much sleep I was able to get the night before, or rather how many times I have been woken by my Wildings. Being in the trenches of Motherhood sleep deprivation can be cruel and really throw my routines and rituals out the window. The other factor is how organised I am the night before. So for me my Morning Rituals really do start the night, or even the afternoon before. My days and mornings are not perfect but when I am in sync with my rituals it has a flow-on effect for the rest of my day. With 3 Wildlings, 6 years old and under, 2 of those kiddies being 17 months apart ( Wildling 2 is 3 years old and Wildling 3 is 2 years old) the nights and then mornings can be a little ‘hairy’. Everyone wants a part of me. And you are on the go from the moment their little eyes open. So for the Mummies out there whose babies are not sleeping through, be kind to yourself. Find rituals that are manageable for you, still making yourself a priority as you will be a better Mum, partner, friend, human for it. Being up before the children may not be ideal for you. I know for me some days my son is up before 6 am so I lay with him to keep him snuggled and quiet so the rest of the house gets more sleep. On those days I shift my rituals too later in the day. But I have my non-negotiables. Just remember to be kind to yourself, find ways to fill your cup and love you as you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Setting my rituals up the night before
Each afternoon I have a list of housekeeping and Mum jobs that I get done to make our mornings flow with more ease. Things like a speed tidy up and clean, preparing lunches, and laying clothes out for the next day. I mostly work out at home so I make sure my mat and weights, as well as my workout clothes, are set up ready to go. The more you can do the night before to make life flow with more ease for your future self the more grounded and present you will feel. What micro-habits can you start to get your closer to your wellness goals?
Why Morning Rituals?
Finding ways that you can nurture your soul, mind and body will make you feel happy, more content and present, from the inside out. My belief is that we must go within so we don’t go without. This does not exclude Mums, who sadly more often than not, put ourselves last on the list of musts. When we are pregnant our brains actually rewire to change our priorities so we can blame that for this fact. This then means we can become something we don’t love, our energy, both emotionally and physically is drained.
So find things that light you up, maybe they won’t at first. But when you make yourself a priority, when you put a high value on yourself and remain consistent you will reap the benefits. Whether it is just rising earlier than the kids or it is exercising, it may feel like the hardest thing before you do it, but your future self will thank you for it, I promise. So take some time to think about your values, what lights you up, what did you love doing as a child, what makes you smile from the inside out?
My Morning Rituals
1. Rise with the sun
My morning rituals start with me being up before everyone else, or at the very least being up before my 2 year. If the big kids wake early it is some cartoons and a smoothie in the toy room so I can still have time to myself. Yes, it is ok for them to watch a little TV. If you don’t judge yourself it is all ok. I have the kids smoothies made the night before so they can just grab them out of the fridge each morning. I am blessed with a hubby who is home most mornings, Muso life. And I work from home so I don’t have to ‘get ready for work’ as such. I still very much treat my day like I would if I left for work, except I don’t have to do hair and makeup, most days. My dream day starts at 5am. If this scares you just start by setting your alarm 15minutes early and work your way to 5am. I don’t set an alarm, my body clock is auto set for 5am. A little trick my Pop taught me, try it and let me know if it works for you (it may take a few goes for your body clock to sync). Before you go to sleep you tell your brain what time you want to wake up, simple right.
Meditation has honestly been one of the leading factors in transforming my emotional wellbeing. For many years I have listened to sleep meditations to help with insomnia. However over my business journey I have really noticed the power of meditation to bring focus to what I truly want to achieve and to shine the light on my truth. As a parent meditation has given me the gift of calm and reminds me how I want to show up as a parent. I meditate before sleep and before my feet hit the ground most days. I use an app called The Breathing Room, but there are plenty of free apps as well as plenty on youtube. It can be even just sitting or laying in silence, bringing focus to your breathing using a word or statement to breath in and bring you home to your body. Start small and commit to it daily to see the transformation internally.
I love to head out on my own while everyone sleeps for a walk, listening to a podcast or an audiobook. This leaves me feeling inspired and much more grounded. 45 minutes of fasted cardio is a great goal 4-5 times a week. Start slow and steady to work your way towards your wellness goals. Be prepared the night before – have your shoes clothes and head phones all ready to go. If you can’t do mornings than make it happen at another time during the day. For me walking and all exercise is about my soul and mind. If I don’t get out for a walk it is a 15minute workout at home in the toy room. You don’t need a fancy at home gym. A yoga mat and some hand weights are all I have. I either watch something on youtube or do a work out from my online wellness program. For me when I shifted focus from long workouts to 10-20 minutes of High intensity body weights style workouts I saw the changes I desired. Again start slow if you need, maybe just with a plank and squats challenge and work your way to 15 or 20 minutes 3-5 times a week. You have to find your reason for movement, then you will begin to fall in love.
As Mums, women, humans we really do need to be flexible. Flexible in our bodies yes but flexible in our routines and rituals. Have your MUSTS but be ok that if the morning doesn’t go to plan you can fit them in through out your day. If my day doesn’t start perfectly I have a few MUSTS that happen regardless, like seriously don’t get in the way of me and my morning shower. Showering and washing my hair is a non-negotiable, I don’t know the last time I DIDN’T wash my hair in the morning. It is a very painful habit as it means if I want to look like a boss babe I have to blow-dry and straighten daily, so I choose to just look like me and rock the Mum bun most days. In the shower I go through my morning statement, this includes some gratitude, power statements, I am statements and manifesting. All to bring me back to my truth and my vision. Sleepless nights and being in the trenches of Motherhood can leave us feeling powerless, with no purpose and direction so I find having a morning statement really important. Depending on time I read my mission statement while getting ready for the day. I also have my mission statement recorded so I can listen throughout the day when I need to be reminded of my purpose, direction and vision.
After my shower the Mum-life day starts, breakfasts, lunches, bags packed and our big girl is off to school. My hubby makes me a Bulletproof coffee which I drink while getting the kids their breakfast. We do intermittent fasting so I have breakfast after I return from the school run. But when I am not fasting I would normally have a smoothie to kick start my day. I am not a big breakfast eater so a smoothie packed with superfoods is a great alternative. For the kids we do healthy superfood pancakes, eggs or bacon. Fuelling everyone to start their day with level blood sugar and not a big sugar packed breakfast is a must here. It means I have children who are ready to be engaged learners with full bellies. As a family find ways to start your body to make the rest of your day easier, that your future self will thank you for.
Embrace this stage of life
And that is my perfectly, not perfect morning rituals. I have embraced the parenting philosophy of ‘near enough is good enough’. I was extremely OCD before children and instead of clinging to that story I decided to let it go and instead just be in this stage of life. I will have plenty of years as my children grow out of the fun, wild and messy stage to have the perfect house and the perfect routines. For now, we focus on getting it near enough, raising grounded, fun, healthy and happy children. So I encourage you to embrace this stage of life while making yourself a priority, your future self will love you for it.
xo Jac ~ Inspired Mummies
Photo Credit to Shardae Cannon from Cherished Studios.